Realizations/ insights from being raised by a narcissistic psychopath - some mechanisms

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woelfchen2 hours agoPeakD2 min read

Still working it out.
Because it was even worse than the following summaries/ memes, which mainly provide an introduction to the already very hurtful, damaging and traumatizing NARCISSISTIC part.

The difference from narcissism to psychopathy is especially:

narcissists only want to be seen as great and better, so the main focus is on external impression/presentation/image
while psychopaths actively want to damage their victims, which they see as OBJECTS they OWN, by lying/ gaslighting/Character assassination [even in front of employer/police/courts, not only acquaintances/ friends/ family]
both work with (unconscious) projections and therefore do themselves hardcore what they claim you to do/ be - as a kind of projected revenge and you as an abused object, which allows/justifies their behavior (in their logic)
therefore both (narc & psycho, but ofc also victim, if realization hits after lots of time, finally leaving pure manipulated and confusing fog) always claim the victim role (especially hard when adult - child situation, child becomes responsible for Perpetrator's feelings and in general for everything -> gets the fault for everything, even when child is still so young and irresponsible as a young human just is)
-> Perpetrator victim reversal, Difference between victim (most times just the perpetrator claiming the role) and those actually affected
children in general are just at total mercy, most are damaged for life, if they even survive a childhood without love
psychopaths have no empathy (seems they not just do not want to be empathic, but CAN'T - the hardware for empathy is just not in the brain, a disability)
argumentations, contact, honesty is all pointless and all information are only being used against you. If you ever get an excuse, it is only designed to open you up again for manipulation.
never to to therapy but try to put everyone else into therapy, if they don't "work" as expected/ conditioned
most times only strategy to save oneself is breaking up contact, getting as much distance between as possible - in worst case and last chance: grey rock method
never let them in your life again