Comforting Lies: Emotional Shields That Eventually Break

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sayu90711 days ago6 min read

Things that are not true or something that we can get hurt by and they are the lies that surely can be quite painful to digest because it is something that we never any expected to happen and coming from certain sources which can have more value is obviously going to become even more difficult for us to deal with and at an overall level lies are obviously going to be something that definitely gives us some sort of pain.

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But on the flip side certain lies actually are something which can Heal us and also make us feel better as well because there can be certain situations which are actually opposite to water reality is and that can be something which can comfort us which is something which are going to be the comforting lies and those are the ones which we often used in many occasion within our life as well when it definitely seems to be a better choice that accepting reality.

There can be many such situations in our life when we are not able to actually control the things that we actually wanted to and in those situations out of she necessity we do choose to believe in something that is actually not true as we can't really have ourselves go through those situations when it becomes even more difficult for us to deal with which is actually going to be the reality and to stay away from that we start to believe in something that is not true but something that makes us feel comfortable.

This is something that we use very often in our life and almost every single person is having some sort of believe within themselves which is not true but they just believe in that because they feel comfortable in it and do not really want to be accepting the reality itself and for me that particular comforting light is definitely going to be believing in I am fine when I am actually not I am this is something which I go through many situations but I just trying to make myself feel that.

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We need to understand the fact that comforting lies are obviously something that do not originate from us being dishonest, but you just make ourselves feel comfortable in that particular situation which is actually done in a way to be not facing those kind of emotions which we are not ready to deal with and that seems to be even of the best options to be actually picked.

There are many reasons why we actually pic comforting Lies over actually facing the reality and one of the most common ones is surely going to be because we don't really have that set of emotions that are going to be necessary to be dealing with the situation that we are actually experience in and also because having to just pretend something else might be better to go through many situations and avoiding any kind of confrontation with any people.

Better the same time these comforting lies can surely be very good when they are actually been used but over time and in the long run the definitely have a lot of problem that they definitely calls and when it comes to me I have been trying to just written myself that I am fine regardless of whatever situation I am a part of and slowly that became a kind of Identity of my own self and even when I was not very much ok with the things that I was in I just thought I was fine but made me feel a lot of pressure and fill me up with much of this satisfaction as well and kind of disconnection with everything that I was involved in.

The biggest factor that I learn myself about these comforting lies is going to be about it not been able to function after a particular point of time because there is always going to be a certain point when its tops working and that is when we realise that it has never worked for us and it made us even more weak because we have never got the opportunity to face the situation head on and when the shield Brook we are completely exposed and that is something which we are not able to realise until it is very late.

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One of the things that we should be implementing to be actually setting ourselves free from any kind of comforting lie is to be actually I'm bring certain gentle truths because we might not be able to deal with absolute honesty which can be quite brutal for us and that is why we have to be chest trying to tone it down a little bit and make sure that we are not running away from the situation and also not exposing ourselves completely and having that gentle Truth by our side all the time and slowly get habituated to deal with the complete scenario at once after a point of time.

But this process definitely comes with a lot of this comfort as I have experience on myself as well because when we are trying to let go off comforting lie that we have held for so long it definitely does not come very easily because it is going to be making a feel that we are going to expose ourself to those situations which we have ran away from for so long and we have to be actually coming face to face to the things that we have avoided all at one and that is something we have to be acknowledging as well and all of these things don't really make us want to do that but it is something that we need to be doing and that is very important to be done.

At the end there are comforting lies that are surely very helpful and for me that particular mind set of being fine even when I was not was definitely something that help me get through a lot of situations but in the long run it is definitely not going to be the thing that I should be having forever and letting it go and repressing it with the truth is something that is obviously the best thing that can be done in any kind of life which we have in our life and there is something that we should always remember.