ADULTHOOD: A time to face real life

While growing up as a child I said to myself; if i age 20 i would rent a house, and live my life the way i want it, yes, that Freedom i wanted it.

Most children have this thinking of living alone because they want freedom, or they see their peers who live alone and living life the way they want, buh we sometimes fail to ask the question (HOW ARE YOU COPING ALONE?).

 Well just recently i visited a friend of mine who was sick and she said to me , "It is not good to live alone , that if she was with her mom atleast her mom would have cook for her , buy drugs for her, bath her , take care of her , talk with her , crack jokes ,and she would just  rest , that she is just tired". So i spent some time with her, assisted her with some things, talk with her and made sure she bath before i leave , she was happy and  later in the evening i called to check on her and she couldn't stop thanking me for coming around and i was happy.

 While i was thinking of how my day went, It occurred to me of my plans to leave the house to have freedom, i had a rethink and decided to be more patient than ever.

I shared the experience with my mom and she shared experience of her life as a spinster, paying her rent, feeding herself and taking care of her needs, the part that scared me most was the part of sickness that she couldn't see clearly, can't cook , eat, bath or do anything, if not for a friend that came visiting her that day and saw her lying helpless on the bed .

At the end of our discussion she said to me living alone has less advantage and more disadvantage especially as a female because anything can happen and you can't predict what life would bring so why not remove the thinking of leaving the house and spend more time with the family.

That face when you have to make changes 🥲🥲

Right now i enjoy my home , even when i travel all i think of is home, speaking of freedom, i enjoy a measure if freedom like going out for visitation, taking a stroll, traveling on my own without them wanting to go with me or asking much questions like
Who is going with me
Why am going
How many hours i will be spending out there

This is because of the trust and confidence they have over the children, knowing fully well we won't fail them.

Living alone is not a bad idea buh when the problems come you will surely need assistance which money cannot do.

Thanks #hive and #ghana for bringing up this prompt i really enjoyed thinking and writing about it.