The hidden costs of broken homes

Divorce is a significant issue that cannot be overemphasized. The impact of divorce on the partners involved can be weighed differently from its effects on children, particularly because some parents can be negligent and unworthy of the title "parent." The consequences of divorce often weigh more heavily on the children than on the parents. Children may experience anxiety, depression, lack of parental care, and feelings of abandonment, and they face challenges regarding family dynamics and parental relationships. We should try to consider them in whatever decision we are making so that we won't have the chance to regret such actions.

I witnessed a case when I newly joined the teaching service several years ago. A woman divorced her husband after having three children with him and subsequently remarried. She couldn't take the children with her, so she opted to rent a house in one of the local communities and entrusted her 13-year-old daughter to a male teacher to oversee her. This girl, a JSS2 student, suddenly found herself in a position of responsibility as the Father and mother to her younger siblings, who were still in primary school.

How can a 13-year-old, still a child herself, fulfill the roles of both mother and father to younger siblings? Unfortunately, this situation took a dark turn when the teacher started molesting this girl every day, telling the girl not to say a word to anyone, otherwise he would kill her. The molestation was going on when another teacher started to sleep with the girl again, also with a charm not to tell anyone.

So, both the male teacher and his friend were sleeping with this girl every day to the point of several abortions has been going on. In all these, the stupid mother refused to look back to check on her children. So, what led to the cat out of the bag was when the last abortion damaged the girl's womb, and then she summoned the courage to speak out for the first time. People stepped in, and proper punishment was given to the teachers. With this short real story, what do you think has happened to that girl? It is a lifetime trauma that can never be healed except that God steps in.

However, the well-being of the parents is also important because some relationships are toxic, while one may decide to endure because of the children, one might end up leaving the children to more suffering in the neglect of a divorce. Nobody should stay in a toxic or unhappy relationship, but don't ignore or neglect your children totally because of divorce. My cousin tried to endure the pain until she couldn't bear it any longer; she had to leave for her to live, and she never once abandoned her children because she took them along on the order of the court.

Don't shot the door finally on your children all in the name Divorce. Get divorced and consider the effects it would have on the children. Also, don't stay in a toxic marriage all in the name of I don't want to leave my children.
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This post is in response to the #hiveleaners weekly prompt on the topic:DIVORCE

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